Reader Asks: I have had an affair and was caught a few years ago. My husband and I are together and he is a wonderful man. While I am very remorseful, I am having a lot of trouble truly accepting the blame. In … Continue reading
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How to get over an affair in 7 [not at all] easy steps
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By, Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Infidelity is something that affects countless couples. The Kinsey Institute sites research that shows that 20-25% of men and 10-15% of women engage in extramarital sex at least once during their marriage. (Laumann, 1994; Wiederman, 1997). So, of course, … Continue reading
The one habit that could improve your life. (validation.)
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Okay, so anyone who has read my blog or done therapy with me already knows that my favorite “therapy tool,” isn’t really a tool at all; It’s just a simple way of thinking: Validation. What is … Continue reading
Reader Asks: I wish I never had my child.
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Question: I have a daughter with bipolar disorder who is ruining my life with her disrespect and her antics. I bring her to therapy and she’s on medication, but it doesn’t seem to be helping. I am honestly counting the days … Continue reading
8 things you should never say to your spouse.
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (also published on Lifehack.) Words are powerful, and they can be used to build an amazing relationship or to destroy a relationship. Here are 10 things to be careful to never say to your spouse: 1. “You’re … Continue reading
8 simple ways to stop unwanted thoughts. By Meg Sanity.
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Recently, I was scouring the internet for a quick cheat-sheet which would describe several strategies for managing unwanted thoughts. (Therapists search for bizarre things. Like, in the middle of a CBT therapy session, google can help ascertain the answer to, “Can a spider break … Continue reading
Radical Acceptance (explained in one simple crappy drawing.)
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Oh, what’s that? You’ve always wondered, “What exactly is radical acceptance, and does anyone have any amateur drawings depicting its every-day application?” ?? Today is your lucky day: And, incidentally, I just also had to radically accept that … Continue reading
Help! My son has ADHD and his teacher makes him feel like a horrible kid!
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Question: My son has ADHD, and keeps touching other kids (not aggressively; Just little stuff that he can’t help.) He has an IEP. The teacher puts him way in the back of the room to be away … Continue reading
DBT and “Mindfulness” (so you don’t chuck any remotes into any TV screens.)
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“Dialectical Behavioral Therapy” (DBT) is a type of therapy developed by Marsha Linehan which helps people manage and tolerate distressing situations and feelings. DBT is similar to “Cognitive Behavioral Therapy” (CBT) in that it challenges ways of thinking that end up making you feel … Continue reading
How to talk about all the icky things (So that you might feel a little less icky.)
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I clean the house once a week, so if you come over near the end of the week, you might notice sticky floors, a smudged refrigerator, and blue kiddy toothpaste all over the upstairs bathroom sink. … Continue reading
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