What’s really behind the mommy guilt? – An Adlerian perspective

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“Oops! I’m so sorry! I totally forgot to bring the testing materials back today, and I just remembered you needed to use them.  I feel so guilty.” I was apologizing to my supervisor during my clinical internship at a Chicago prison circa 2007.  … Continue reading

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Dealing with your child’s anxiety: The support and accountability balance.

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In a recent blog post, I mentioned that anxiety is currently over-catastrophized and over-diagnosed.  I went on to explain that in years past, a child who feared giving an oral presentation would basically be told to “suck it up and deal,” whereas … Continue reading

Mental Illness and Young Adults: Why College Campuses are in Crisis

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Let’s talk about the mental health of young adults in the United States.  It seems to me, from what I’ve read and observed in my corner of the country, that we are headed for a crisis if something doesn’t change. … Continue reading

Reader Asks: My stepson’s father sucks.

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Reader Asks: I have a step son who while isn’t “special needs,” he has anxiety and general effort issues. He certainly requires more time and energy than my kids to motivate and disciple. That however is not why I write … Continue reading

Ode to the anxious person’s spouse.

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Dear spouse of a person whose nerves are raw, You are a vision of patience and deserve an applause. How sweetly you listen to Web MD’s diagnosis, When your spouse knows she has deep vein thrombosis. Hail to you when you don’t roll your eyes, When your partner … Continue reading

Reader Asks: How can I help my chunky kids slim down?

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By Angelica Shiels, Psy.D. A reader asks, My kids are chunky. Not fat, but pudgy enough to need husky jeans! How do I address this and help them slim down a bit without giving them body image issues? Well, mom-who-wants-to-help, I’m … Continue reading

MUSTerbation and SHOULDing on yourself: Ain’t nobody got time for that.

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I wish I could say that I coined these brilliant terms, but alas, it was Albert Ellis, the grandfather of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT).  REBT says that an incident occurs (a), and then we have a belief about that incident … Continue reading

8 simple ways to stop unwanted thoughts. By Meg Sanity.

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Recently, I was scouring the internet for a quick cheat-sheet which would describe several strategies for managing unwanted thoughts.  (Therapists search for bizarre things.  Like, in the middle of a CBT therapy session, google can help ascertain the answer to, “Can a spider break … Continue reading

For parents of kids with depression and/or anxiety. (some practical suggestions.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I greet you in the waiting room, and ask if you need to let me know anything before I bring your child back to my office;  You usually say “no,” and likely wonder what is going … Continue reading