Joey’s Secret: Defensive, strong, yet never good enough.

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  I followed my mother around the mall, transforming hanging lights into spaceships and  marble tiles into the surfaces of planets.  Shiny reflections were laser beams to be avoided and hurdled. Zoom zoom, the mannequin Martians will be defeated! JOSEPH ALLEN TANNER!!!!! A … Continue reading

Everyone else is a narcissist!! Or, could it be ME?

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Since articles without tangible application are boring, let’s get started with a simple quiz.  Chose a response to the following scenarios: 1) Your friend/spouse kept you waiting at the restaurant for 30 minutes, before he finally shows up, clearly frazzled and … Continue reading

Ode to the anxious person’s spouse.

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Dear spouse of a person whose nerves are raw, You are a vision of patience and deserve an applause. How sweetly you listen to Web MD’s diagnosis, When your spouse knows she has deep vein thrombosis. Hail to you when you don’t roll your eyes, When your partner … Continue reading

5 reasons your husband is on Ashley Madison

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This is for the thousands of [mostly] women who recently spelled-out their husband’s email in that little box on the computer screen …. click click click…. and were horrified to see the results…. Here are 5 reasons your husband has an Ashley Madison account: 1) Your … Continue reading

Lonely? Feel like no one cares? Read this.

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‘Tis the season.  Every year from about mid-December until the end of February, a familiar theme begins to emerge in therapy sessions:  The loneliness and worthlessness of legitimately feeling like no one cares.  Of course I hear this from time to time year-round, but “no … Continue reading

Obedience is overrated. Parents, try this instead.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I have received a few requests for “how to get my kid to listen” posts recently (I have a lot of friends die-hard fans who have preschoolers and a few who have teenagers.). But before I … Continue reading

Give awkwardly specific compliments. (advice from a couples therapist).

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I recently read an article about how saying “I love you” to your significant other isn’t enough.  As I often tell the couples I see in private practice, it is important to be specific about the behaviors that you admire and appreciate about each … Continue reading

How to get over an affair in 7 [not at all] easy steps

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By, Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Infidelity is something that affects countless couples. The Kinsey Institute sites research that shows that 20-25% of men and 10-15% of women engage in extramarital sex at least once during their marriage. (Laumann, 1994; Wiederman, 1997).  So, of course, … Continue reading