Behold, my sloppy attempt to capture a dynamic I see EXTREMELY OFTEN in therapy, where a “crazy” person is not really crazy at all and a “neglectful” person is not really a narcissist at all, AND the whole misguided cycle … Continue reading
Leverage those neurotransmitters! (Practical advice for CEO’s, teachers, and parents.)
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You may think this is merely a disgusting display of tuna-fish baked into a fish shape. But it is actually a picture of my five-year-old’s hard-won dopamine, seratonin, and oxytocin. I’m currently consumed with Simon Sinek, an author/speaker who just … Continue reading
Are you MATURE in your relationships?
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Wanna know a secret? I spent years of my life convinced I was always right, or at least largely undefensive and mature. (Sorry, husband. Being married to an INTP with a particular kinda baggage probably sucks sometimes.) Even during … Continue reading
Loneliness, toothpaste clumps, and annoying singing: a not so simple method for navigating relationship stress.
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My kids were annoying the crap out of each other the other day. HARD-CORE. In fact, their shenanigans annoyed ME enough that I had no choice but to annoy them BACK with a handy dandy “psychology lecture.” Anyway, the particular lesson … Continue reading
Moms Working 90 Hours Per Week, Something’s Gotta Change.
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Have you HEARD!? The average working mom puts in over 90 hours per week, between domestic, parenting, and professional duties. That’s over 13 hours per day on-the-proverbial-clock, INCLUDING SATURDAYS AND SUNDAYS! AND the women polled in the study didn’t … Continue reading
The Seven Deadly Sins of Couples (that we all sometimes commit)
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Ok, ok. So maybe the “deadly sins” in the title was a little overboard. But “Seven ways to cause your couples therapist to abruptly raise one open palm and close her exasperated eyes, her chin dramatically tilted downward in feigned-prayer-position” seemed … Continue reading
Red-faced yelling others into submission: I mean it works, right?
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The above picture captures a moment, yesterday, when I reacted to my kid battling me about his daily math/writing practice for the 899th time this summer. Yes there was screaming; Yes, there was a crazy-eyed, red-faced, stomp-fest; Yes, there was … Continue reading
The killing game.
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My face emerged from the water, breathless, and I squinted at the summer moon. eeeee- zzzzzzz-pssszzzzzz-eeee Blue light spilled over all the trees surrounding the pool, and my dad stood with his hands on his hips and his chest pushed out, … Continue reading
It’s all about the story.
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Gut-wrenching true story alert: The love of Kathy’s life, her adoring husband, died unexpectedly. Kathy, gripped with shock and grief, decided that love was not for her: Horrific things happen when one lets her guard down and indulges in … Continue reading
Science-backed techniques that make you want to punch your therapist in the face.
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Feeling empty? Unsatisfied? Alone? Purposeless and lacking in motivation? Make some deep and vulnerable friendships, exercise, start liking yourself even if you lost your job and Sara didn’t invite you to the last four girls nights; focus on your … Continue reading