Help! My preteen is super lazy and unmotivated!

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Reader writes: How do you motivate a “lazy” tween? One who shortcuts and half assess everything, even if you hover and will lie his butt off to get out of whatever it is you want from him? My son is 11/6th … Continue reading

4 Ways Our Pasts Affect Our Current Relationships

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Kent, a retired army commander, often discussed his marital struggles in therapy: “Doc, get this:  Marianne said she needed to take a business trip to Chicago with a male coworker. I did just like you would have told me to do- I calmly asked her not … Continue reading

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Jimmy’s Secret: Why the Red, Yellow, Green Behavioral System Doesn’t Work.

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Dear Diary, So I’m back to school for the year. The thought of school makes me want to squish my sweaty palm into my sweaty armpit over and over. I’ve been practicing that sound all summer. On the first day … Continue reading

Reader Asks: How can I help my chunky kids slim down?

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By Angelica Shiels, Psy.D. A reader asks, My kids are chunky. Not fat, but pudgy enough to need husky jeans! How do I address this and help them slim down a bit without giving them body image issues? Well, mom-who-wants-to-help, I’m … Continue reading

Obedience is overrated. Parents, try this instead.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I have received a few requests for “how to get my kid to listen” posts recently (I have a lot of friends die-hard fans who have preschoolers and a few who have teenagers.). But before I … Continue reading

DBT and Radical Acceptance. (Sometimes you just have to accept some pee.)

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Preface by Megsanity: Dialectical Behavioral Therapy (DBT) has been a growing phenomenon in the psychotherapy world. And as this movement becomes more popular in the general population, I have been getting more and more questions about it……. Keep reading…

Radical Acceptance (explained in one simple crappy drawing.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Oh, what’s that?  You’ve always wondered, “What exactly is radical acceptance, and does anyone have any amateur drawings depicting its every-day application?” ??  Today is your lucky day: And, incidentally, I just also had to radically accept that … Continue reading

From crazy love to just plain crazy….What often goes wrong in relationships.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Why do so many people fall into blazing-hot love, only to find themselves so dissatisfied years later? Well, “Imago relational theory” (just a theory, but I haven’t seen one situation where it doesn’t fit) gives us … Continue reading