10 things your therapist knows about you (that you wish your spouse knew).

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Therapists.  Admittedly, we tend to be a hippy dippy bunch.  Trained to pull from our vast understandings of neurology and human nature, we spend years developing virtually bottomless capacities for empathy.  Just kidding.  I mean, yes there is a little of that, but it also helps … Continue reading

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Ode to the anxious person’s spouse.

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Dear spouse of a person whose nerves are raw, You are a vision of patience and deserve an applause. How sweetly you listen to Web MD’s diagnosis, When your spouse knows she has deep vein thrombosis. Hail to you when you don’t roll your eyes, When your partner … Continue reading

5 reasons your husband is on Ashley Madison

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This is for the thousands of [mostly] women who recently spelled-out their husband’s email in that little box on the computer screen …. click click click…. and were horrified to see the results…. Here are 5 reasons your husband has an Ashley Madison account: 1) Your … Continue reading

The one habit that could improve your life. (validation.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Okay, so anyone who has read my blog or done therapy with me already knows that my favorite “therapy tool,” isn’t really a tool at all; It’s just a simple way of thinking: Validation. What is … Continue reading

How to talk about all the icky things (So that you might feel a little less icky.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I clean the house once a week, so if you come over near the end of the week, you might notice sticky floors, a smudged refrigerator, and blue kiddy toothpaste all over the upstairs bathroom sink. … Continue reading

Sex life isn’t all it could be? Check this out.

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This is what I make while my kids are coloring. There is only so much satisfaction one gets from drawing dinosaurs (And I’m trying to make it a point to be on my computer less, so this counts as engaging … Continue reading

8 Secrets to Long-Term Monogamy: The Science of Happy Marriages.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (Article also posted to Lifehack.) I have been reading a lot about the concept of “monogamy” lately. Not just because I am doing research on sexual monogamy for my new professional venture.  Actually, the topic is kind of a bizarre hobby … Continue reading

Does my unhelpful, selfish husband have ADHD?

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I was recently reading a great article about ADHD and marriage. Basically, the article described a type of “irritable, selfish, unhelpful, sometimes useless” partner, a partner often described to me in therapy by a frustrated wife, describing her schlub … Continue reading