What’s really behind the mommy guilt? – An Adlerian perspective

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“Oops! I’m so sorry! I totally forgot to bring the testing materials back today, and I just remembered you needed to use them.  I feel so guilty.” I was apologizing to my supervisor during my clinical internship at a Chicago prison circa 2007.  … Continue reading

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The Loyalty Dilema: Caught Between the Wife and the Mother

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Dear male readers (all seven of you.  Hint hint, please tag your husband and share this article.), Let’s talk about a little dilemma that I too-often hear about in couples therapy:  Your wife is pissed because you won’t tell your overbearing/judgmental … Continue reading

The one habit that could improve your life. (validation.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Okay, so anyone who has read my blog or done therapy with me already knows that my favorite “therapy tool,” isn’t really a tool at all; It’s just a simple way of thinking: Validation. What is … Continue reading

Family Bootcamp. (A training program for spouses and parents.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. “Family” is not for the faint of heart.  As a family therapist and someone who has a family myself, I actually think that marriage licenses and pregnancy tests should offer disclaimers. Similar to the warnings on alcohol and tobacco products, I think … Continue reading

Practical Tips for Parents of Kids with ADHD.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D I’m going to make this quick and dirty, since you parents with ADHD kids don’t exactly have the time or luxury of sitting around with your feet up, enjoying quiet and leisurely reading. But the school … Continue reading

Does Your Family Have a Mission Statement?

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  I have read several articles suggesting that there are benefits to families developing mission statements. And I agree. Living according to mission statement ensures that interactions and decisions are deliberate and consistent with the overall goals of the family. It is … Continue reading

For parents of kids with depression and/or anxiety. (some practical suggestions.)

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I greet you in the waiting room, and ask if you need to let me know anything before I bring your child back to my office;  You usually say “no,” and likely wonder what is going … Continue reading

Handling difficult emotions: A Simple PDF.

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D A while back, I created a  document for some of the teenagers I see in therapy (For therapists:  It combines CBT and DBT, addressing some common thinking errors, validation, radical acceptance, and distress tolerance in a SIMPLE FORM.  … Continue reading

A SKILL that staves off depression in children

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Today’s children are at a higher risk for depression than in any previous generation. Almost one in ten children will experience a major depressive episode by the time they are 14 years old, and almost one in … Continue reading