Want some good relationship advice? Couples therapists dish.


I recently asked 7 couples therapists to weigh-in with their answers to some important relationship questions.  If you are married or in a long-term-monogamous (LTM) relationship, take a couple minutes to read what the experts have to say.  Better yet, read it … Continue reading


MUSTerbation and SHOULDing on yourself: Ain’t nobody got time for that.


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I wish I could say that I coined these brilliant terms, but alas, it was Albert Ellis, the grandfather of Rational Emotive Behavioral Therapy (REBT).  REBT says that an incident occurs (a), and then we have a belief about that incident … Continue reading

Help! My son has ADHD and his teacher makes him feel like a horrible kid!


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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Question:  My son has ADHD, and keeps touching other kids (not aggressively; Just little stuff that he can’t help.) He has an IEP.  The teacher puts him way in the back of the room to be away … Continue reading

For parents of kids with depression and/or anxiety. (some practical suggestions.)


By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I greet you in the waiting room, and ask if you need to let me know anything before I bring your child back to my office;  You usually say “no,” and likely wonder what is going … Continue reading

Handling difficult emotions: A Simple PDF.


By Angelica Shiels Psy.D A while back, I created a  document for some of the teenagers I see in therapy (For therapists:  It combines CBT and DBT, addressing some common thinking errors, validation, radical acceptance, and distress tolerance in a SIMPLE FORM.  … Continue reading

How to stop intrusive thoughts. By Meg Sanity


Guest Post By Meg Sanity Thought replacement is one of the most widely-used techniques in cognitive behavioral treatment. It is also one of the most self-explanatory techniques under the cognitive behavioral umbrella. What you do is…replace your thoughts. This is … Continue reading

A SKILL that staves off depression in children


By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Today’s children are at a higher risk for depression than in any previous generation. Almost one in ten children will experience a major depressive episode by the time they are 14 years old, and almost one in … Continue reading

CBT may backfire with severe depression.


; Apparently, attempting to intentionally change your depressive thoughts (CBT) can exacerbate negative emotions for severely depressed people. (Shout out to my Wisconsin Badgers for conducting this brain imaging research.) So what’s the application? Hmmm….. I’ve often observed that the … Continue reading