How to talk to people so they will listen. (Yes, even your teenager and your husband.)


By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Most mental health counselors receive some kind of training in how to communicate in a way that errrr… doesn’t sound off-putting, arrogant, one-sided, and ridiculous.  And lo and behold, it is not just the people who … Continue reading

12 habits that could ruin your relationship.


1) Being condescending, sarcastic, or contemptuous toward your partner: 2) Failing to intentionally appreciate his/her unique talents and contributions: 3) Criticizing or emasculating your man (Gottman): 4) Stonewalling, avoiding, or ignoring your woman (Gottman): 5) Mentioning that she must be … Continue reading

Ten Things You Need to Know About Women, Sex, and Monogamy


So I’ve been reading a lot about “women and sex” over the last couple weeks days.   (I’m talking to a bunch of women about the subject tomorrow night at an event for my new(ish) venture, Your Relationship Doc…) PRETTY MUCH, MY … Continue reading

11 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married


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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. 1)  You absolutely, 100%, get back whatever you put into it. 2)  Sometimes what you have to put into it is making a conscious effort to accept and appreciate the other person exactly how they are. … Continue reading

The opposite of anger is surrender


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A couple of months ago, I had one of those mommy out-of-body experiences where I was looking down on myself screaming at my five-year old son….And I couldn’t stop.  It was scary, so of course, I started over-thinking it.  I … Continue reading