What if my husband (or wife) refuses to go to couples therapy?

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What if my husband (or wife) refuses to go to couples therapy? This guy: “Therapy?  What?  You’ve got to be kidding.” By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. It is very common for one partner to have more interest in attending therapy than … Continue reading

The Wizard of Us: Protecting our kids’ minds, spirits, & hearts…Even when they act like lions & tigers & bears

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. At least once a week, I observe the same cringe-worthy scene at 3:00 preschool pick-up:  The sweet, well-meaning teacher of a group of fifteen 3-year-olds has the same conversation with the same mother about the same … Continue reading

“If spanking is so bad, what the heck am I supposed to do when my kid is being a terror?”

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Spanking is a controversial subject. Some parents justify it as a form of effective discipline, and some parents insist that it disrespects the child and teaches the child that it is okay to disrespect others. And here we go with my opinion:  Oh, … Continue reading

Ten Things You Need to Know About Women, Sex, and Monogamy

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So I’ve been reading a lot about “women and sex” over the last couple weeks days.   (I’m talking to a bunch of women about the subject tomorrow night at an event for my new(ish) venture, Your Relationship Doc…) PRETTY MUCH, MY … Continue reading

11 Things I Wish I Knew Before I Got Married

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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. 1)  You absolutely, 100%, get back whatever you put into it. 2)  Sometimes what you have to put into it is making a conscious effort to accept and appreciate the other person exactly how they are. … Continue reading

CBT may backfire with severe depression.

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; Apparently, attempting to intentionally change your depressive thoughts (CBT) can exacerbate negative emotions for severely depressed people. (Shout out to my Wisconsin Badgers for conducting this brain imaging research.) So what’s the application? Hmmm….. I’ve often observed that the … Continue reading

Check this out if you’re married.

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Okay, so this isn’t an “article,” but even better.  It’s an awesome video that I find myself telling couples to watch for therapy “homework” all the time.  This is something that couples eventually practice in therapy over and over in … Continue reading