What Children Really Want… (Guest post by Jaclyn Weatherhead)

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This post by North Carolina therapist Jaclyn Weatherhead spoke to my own observations about the consumerism mentality (mainly how it fails to fulfill adults and children alike) …. And she was kind enough to offer her writing as a guest post for me.  … Continue reading

When your kid is defiant (The golden rule beats a golden shower.)

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We’ve all been asked to do things  we feel are ridiculous.  Maybe the store-owner asks you to use the restroom stall to breastfeed your kid.  Maybe your mother, forgetting what it’s like to be a parent, tells you that you really should prioritize wiping … Continue reading

Shame: The toxic feeling behind addiction, yelling, and participating in fundraisers even though you don’t want to.

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In my line of work, I am privileged to catch glimpses of humanity’s vulnerability:  “I don’t initiate sex because it would destroy me if she said no.”  “I fear my own rage when my child makes me angry,” “I’m still thinking about … Continue reading

Help! My preteen is super lazy and unmotivated!

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Reader writes: How do you motivate a “lazy” tween? One who shortcuts and half assess everything, even if you hover and will lie his butt off to get out of whatever it is you want from him? My son is 11/6th … Continue reading

What’s really behind the mommy guilt? – An Adlerian perspective

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“Oops! I’m so sorry! I totally forgot to bring the testing materials back today, and I just remembered you needed to use them.  I feel so guilty.” I was apologizing to my supervisor during my clinical internship at a Chicago prison circa 2007.  … Continue reading

An important way your own childhood affects your parenting

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Imagine this scene:  Your third-grader, standing before you with hands on hips, indignantly whines, “Mo-om!  You didn’t remember to add money to my lunch account!!  The lunch lady had to give me a special note today, and it was SO-OH EMBARASSING!  How FLAKY can you … Continue reading

Dealing with your child’s anxiety: The support and accountability balance.

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In a recent blog post, I mentioned that anxiety is currently over-catastrophized and over-diagnosed.  I went on to explain that in years past, a child who feared giving an oral presentation would basically be told to “suck it up and deal,” whereas … Continue reading

Mental Illness and Young Adults: Why College Campuses are in Crisis

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Let’s talk about the mental health of young adults in the United States.  It seems to me, from what I’ve read and observed in my corner of the country, that we are headed for a crisis if something doesn’t change. … Continue reading