By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Why do so many people fall into blazing-hot love, only to find themselves so dissatisfied years later? Well, “Imago relational theory” (just a theory, but I haven’t seen one situation where it doesn’t fit) gives us … Continue reading
Category Archives: couples therapy
8 Secrets to Long-Term Monogamy: The Science of Happy Marriages.
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (Article also posted to Lifehack.) I have been reading a lot about the concept of “monogamy” lately. Not just because I am doing research on sexual monogamy for my new professional venture. Actually, the topic is kind of a bizarre hobby … Continue reading
Mothers, smothers, & lovers. (A tale of abandonment and engulfment.)
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. Duane and Mary often fought about the same thing over and over: Duane was distant and unresponsive to Mary’s emotional and physical advances; Mary relentlessly smothered Duane with her demands for conversation and intimacy. This couple, like many … Continue reading
Does my unhelpful, selfish husband have ADHD?
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. I was recently reading a great article about ADHD and marriage. Basically, the article described a type of “irritable, selfish, unhelpful, sometimes useless” partner, a partner often described to me in therapy by a frustrated wife, describing her schlub … Continue reading
Five Ways to Make Your Husband Do More Stuff by Samantha Rodman
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This guest post is brought to you by Dr. Samantha Rodman (also known as “Dr. Psych Mom” on her blog and social media). I really enjoyed this article- This is a common complaint of many of the women I see … Continue reading
“Love” Unfit for a Hallmark Card
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (Article also posted on Mamapedia) For two days after the birth of our first child, my husband and I were overcome with this complex combination of calm and crazy. As first-time parents, we were so proud, so … Continue reading
Warning: Steer clear of this relationship wrecking ball!
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. We’re all familiar with this cliché scenario: A wife stands there, “nagging” her husband with her hands on her hips, and her husband simply turns up the TV volume while he continues to look straight ahead … Continue reading
Don’t want to fight? Try these simple conflict-busters.
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. No, there isn’t going to be a flowery intro on this post; I’m just getting straight to the point (much like how your conversations will go if all goes right.)… But I should say that these … Continue reading
Train your husband like you train your toddler.
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (Post also appeared on Mamapedia) Shhhh…. Don’t tell your husband, but the same tactics that you use with your kid will work with him! Here are some basic “do’s” and ” don’t ‘s” of husband-training: 1) DO … Continue reading
The one thing that predicts sexual satisfaction in a long-term relationship
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By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. (Post also appeared on Psych Central) Think a satisfying sex life in a long-term relationship is kind of an anomaly? Sure, people pretend it exists because it makes for good romantic comedies and keeps us married folks … Continue reading
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