By Angelica Shiels Psy.D.
So really!? Mom judging is still happening in the day and age when Huff Post Parents and every mommy blog out there preaches “tolerance” and “support” on a daily basis? Guess for some, all the articles in the world can’t push through the need to be controlling and superior.
So how exactly do you handle that mom in your life who seems to enjoy repeatedly telling you you’re doing it wrong? The therapist in me says, “Tell her how you feel and that, while she may not agree, you expect her to respect your choices in parenting,” but the mom in me has better ideas:
1). Write her a note to express your feelings:
2). Have her over for a play date and then reveal that you-too have been working on your Pinterest-perfect nutritious and delicious snack creations:
3). Teach your toddler to give heartfelt gifts to show appreciation for being invited to play dates at her house.
With any luck, this will be her reaction:
4). Lend her a book you think she’d enjoy.
Wait, no, scratch that suggestion. It’s saying a lot when a word makes ME cringe. How about this one instead:
5). Maybe she just needs to be gently reminded of proper social protocol. Consider wearing this shirt each time you see her:
I mean since you can’t control or change the judgy moms of the world, why not at least use a little humor to tolerate it!? (Although I was serious about assertively setting a boundary. All the bizarre gifs on the internet couldn’t erase the therapist from me.)