Oooh, here I go again, saying the controversial stuff that needs to be said to a society that may or may not wanna hear it. Why? Because if it helps ONE person understand themselves and begin to heal, it is … Continue reading →
As a child of the 80’s who is raising kids now, I often think about how much parenting has changed over the last few decades. Take, for example, going to the grocery store: Preparing to leave in the 80’s: Walk … Continue reading →
Ok, fine. This also applies to husbands who need to refrain from criticizing their wives. But. The one-sides title of this article is because 1) 90% of my followers are female and 2) In therapy, the overly-critical wife and the … Continue reading →
Frank has a hard time focusing on “boring” stuff. If it requires sustained, effortful attention, it’s not going to happen without a whole lot of environmental, behavioral, and motivational strategies in place. Instead of writing the topic sentence of his … Continue reading →
Marriage researcher John Gottman says that relationships are in trouble when there are fewer than 5 uplifting statements for every 1 critical statement. He also found that criticism and contempt are two of four phenomenon that successfully predict divorce. But … Continue reading →
“So what was your favorite part of vacation?” I asked my 6 year old near the end of our July road-trip. My son started giggling. “The time when you randomly took off your dress in front of all of us … Continue reading →
I still remember that July afternoon in the early 80’s. I was dressed in my pink sequined tutu from Rummage-o-Rama, the summer uniform of my four year-old self. I sached circles around the cracked plastic pool in the middle of … Continue reading →
By Angelica Shiels Psy.D. This post is a protest to my 13-year old nephew who instructed me to “Never ever say ‘like a boss.’ Never. Ever. Lame.” 1. Handle, “But I don’t wanna gooooo! I’m playing with Jumpy!” like a … Continue reading →
I recently posted a somewhat babbling video about how “happiness” is an internal process, and indeed it is true that “everywhere you go there you are.” Allow me to expand in a more coherent manner: Positive psychology says that a … Continue reading →
Psssst. I have a secret for you, a delicious, life-changing secret: Just because you’re a parent with a job doesn’t mean you’ve been sucked into the vortex of monotony and stagnancy. New experiences contribute both to individual emotional well-being AND … Continue reading →