Okay, so this isn’t an “article,” but even better. It’s an awesome video that I find myself telling couples to watch for therapy “homework” all the time. This is something that couples eventually practice in therapy over and over in different contexts 🙂 Yes, it is weird and forced at first, but eventually this dialogue becomes second hand and it DRAMATICALLY DRAMATICALLY DRAMATICALLY improves relationships…. Check it out (and please don’t mind the “formal” tone of voice and the bizarre background muzak):
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