I recently listened to a REBT therapist on the radio flounder with an upset woman: “If you are angry that your friend called you a bitch to your face, access your BELIEF about that friend’s behavior. It is your BELIEF … Continue reading
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My kid keeps lying! What do I do?
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Here’s a question I often hear from the parents of my kid patients: What do I do about my kid’s constant lying? 99% of the time, here are the things I explain*: I hear this a LOT from parents of … Continue reading
What do people say about you behind your back?
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So… Paranoia. Yes, that title was paranoid-person-click-bait. Does a winky smile make up for it? 😉 We are all at least loosely familiar with the definition of paranoia: “A mental condition characterized by delusions of persecution, unwarranted jealousy, or exaggerated … Continue reading
Detaching: It’s better than avoiding or exploding.
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So. If you’ve been in therapy or have been reading my blog, you probably already know the following strategies for dealing with anxiety: Identify and challenge incorrect/catestrophic underlying assumptions and automatic thoughts. Use grounding, self-soothing, and distraction to minimize physiological … Continue reading
When empathy is not easy.
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Note: I write this confessional so that you may email it to your spouse. Or learn from it yourself? Either way. Confession. Empathy is not automatically easy for me. I was born with a brain that would have guaranteed my … Continue reading
When shame and anxiety haunt you….
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“I would rather do anything than take the timed-tests for my online class. When I had to take a quiz on Sunday, I suddenly noticed the garage needed to be cleaned and I hadn’t bought the kid’s Easter baskets. I’m … Continue reading
Hug it out bro- My quest to raise emotionally-aware boys.
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Dammit. A lump formed in my throat. The lightsaber I ordered doesn’t light-up, and Benny’s birthday party is tomorrow. I have an endless list of things to do, and I won’t be able to make it to the store to … Continue reading
The real deal with ADHD and women (as told by a psychologist with ADHD)
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“You’d forget your head if it wasn’t tacked on.” When I was a child, my grandma said this often, but her admonishment neither left me feeling insecure nor helped resolve the forgetfulness. Her words went in one ear and out … Continue reading
What I hate about self-compassion.
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What I hate about self-compassion is that it is represented as the “answer” to psychological distress when it alone is not. Even conversations about applying self-compassion alone in therapy ring hollow and unhelpful. Imagine if you were feeling socially-insecure and … Continue reading
How this psychologist messed-up with her first kid
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If you’ve read this blog at all, you probably already know I have three boys. In this post, I wanted to share a huge parenting learning experience for me. Basically, it all stemmed from me being dictated by fear/worry/shoulds instead … Continue reading
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